9 Things I’ve Learned in College (Outside of the Classroom)

1.  Don’t Change Your Passion For Someone Else

Don’t let anyone influence you that what you have a passion for is stupid and not worthwhile. There are so many times relatives ask me what I’m majoring in or what I wanna be and they actually have the audacity to try to persuade me to choose another. If you truly know what you want to do and accomplish in life, do it. Live life for yourself.

2. It’s Okay To Doubt Your Beliefs

This is the best time to get out and learn about anything and everything! Don’t be afraid to let what you see and learn influence what you’ve grown up learning about. Be open-minded and believe what YOU want. Don’t be afraid of accepting new beliefs and changing your mind.

3. There are Lessons in Everything

There are lessons to learn everywhere, especially in failure. “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” (Henry Ford) There are lessons even in situations that suck. Look for them and make the best of the situation.

4. Fear Is Only In Your Head

I’ve never watched After Earth, but I’ve watched the trailer and theres this quote “You must realize, that fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me, danger is very real, but fear is a choice.” This gave me a whole new perspective on fear because it’s true. Fear is only in your head. YOU control what makes you scared. Everything you want is on the other side of fear.

5. You Control Your Happiness

Just like how you control what you’re afraid of, you also control your happiness. Don’t let your happiness depend on something or someone. True happiness comes from within and until you realize this, you won’t be. Don’t be a negative person. Life sucks for negative people because they let it suck.

6. It Sucks For Someone To Lose Trust In You 

Don’t do something stupid that’ll let someone who means a lot to you to lose their trust in you. Once you lose it, the only thing on your mind is thinking of ways of how to regain that trust back. You’ll have to work and rebuild that trust from scratch. And just remember, some people don’t forgive as easily and others.

7. It Sucks Worse to Lose Trust In Someone Else

It is so fuxking horrible when you think you know someone and that this person would never do anything to hurt you in any way and that’s exactly what they do. It hurts so much losing trust in someone you had complete faith in. Sometimes it’ll affect you so much that you’d probably lose your faith and trust in everything else. You question how you can trust anyone and anything for awhile. It’ll hurt worse if you love this person and it won’t be easy to forgive. If you see them trying to earn back your trust, sometimes you should let them.

8. Don’t Accept Social Standards

I’m not saying not to accept any of them, but don’t JUST accept them. Don’t be afraid to question and wonder why everything is the way they are. Don’t be afraid to go against them either. They’re just invisible thresholds.

9. It’s Okay To Be Unsure

And who isn’t? It’s okay to not know what you actually want to do in life or if you feel lost because I feel unsure constantly. Don’t worry too much. You’ll figure things out in the end.

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Tree Burning🎄

Yesterday I was invited by one of my very close friends, to a Christmas tree burning. This had become a tradition on the island for approximately 30 years now where families bring their dead & dry Christmas trees and pile them up on the beach and have a bonfire while the moon is out. My friend Iosefo’s family has been apart of this tradition for the past 9 years and his Samoan family contributes by helping out with their family’s traditional food.

The one thing I noticed was the lack of Chamorros (locals of Guam) on the beach. They were mainly Americans. The food was very different than what is expected at a local Chamorro party. It was overall different, but a good different.

Walking into the pitch darkness of the beach which could’ve also felt like walking into a jungle of a horror scene, you walk into a crowd of people all gathered at a safe distance around the pile of trees of the past holiday season, anticipating the event. Glow sticks and bongos and Christmas lights. It was like a small-kine festival. It was really cool. The beach was very breezy, which made me semi-regret wearing a dress. The company was awesome as a few of my other friends came as well as Sefo’s family.

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I’m told that each year there is a scenario that is played out to start the fire. They just find some creative way to light the trees instead of just simply lighting it. Sefo’s girlfriend, Robin, was telling me of their innovative ideas a couple years ago, one with a catapult, the other with a wrecking ball with a dummy attached to it, which was supposed to Miley Cyrus. (I wish I was there for that one) This year they decided to go all James Franco/Kim Jong-un from The Interview and blast the trees with a tank which was probably made from a lawn mower. They actually had several attempts to “blast” the trees because they kept missing, by the fourth one they finally just decided to blast it up close.

It was really fun and it was a new experience. The energy of the crowd as amazing and there were just good vibes all around. I’m anticipating an invite to the tree burning for next year, and a few years from then🔥

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January Inspiration

Various things have changed within the span of January. I’ve met new people, got closer to a few friends, changed little lifestyle habits, and just like how I learned from a plethora of things, I got inspired by a bunch as well.

Let me start off with Ella’s page yet again.

1. We Need To Live More: Easy Yoga Routine

I’ve been meaning to try out yoga for forever and whenever I do, I feel like my body isn’t flexible enough or the moves are too hard. That was until Ella posted a yoga flow on her blog. This inspired me to actually give it a real try and guess what? It was fun and relaxing. I’m actually thinking of trying to incorporate it into a morning routine just because of how much I love the stretches and movements. This also inspired me to download a yoga app from the App Store just to try new yoga flows that I may like. I hope to master a bunch of the more advanced movements in the future, but for right now, I’m really glad I gave it a shot.

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2. We Need To Live More: Acai Bowl Recipe

Ella may have posted her acai bowl recipe more than a month ago, but it wasn’t until recently when I thought to try an acai bowl for the first time. I ordered it from a local health encouraged cafe and it was ALRIGHT. It wasn’t something I would order a second time especially for the cost. I remembered Ella’s recipe awhile back and decided to give acai one more chance by buying the Sambazon acai packets and using Ellas’ recipe and it was amazing!! From that point forward acai bowls have been a staple breakfast bowl.

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3. Balance App

There’s an app I stumbled upon while browsing within the App Store called Balance, which helps you keep track of doing things you wish you were doing often. One of the set tasks on the app is to “Help Somebody Else”. Although I am a helpful person, I actually gave this task a standard, that the person that I’d help, had to be someone I wasn’t really close to, yet I was able to make a good impact on them, in order for me to check off that I had done the task. That was when the opportunity arose to help out with a former professor’s fundraiser and I was only too pleased to offer to make a kind donation. Helping others feels amazing. The only reward I got was the smile on my professor’s face and a thanks of great appreciation and that was more than enough. This app inspired me to help people when they need it and when I can.

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4. @sexylovecakes

One of my best friends, Jenna, and I have made a sort of tradition that we spend Valentines day together. This Valentines we made a plan to make 20 little valentine grams and give them to 20 random people who we think should get them throughout the night. This is sweet and inspiring that you don’t need a valentine to celebrate valentines day and you also don’t need to be sad that you don’t have a valentine. I actually get so excited for valentines day not being pressured with making plans for a boyfriend, but I get to make fun plans with my best friend, which is fuxking cheesy but, isn’t that what valentines is? I’ll be making a post about how the night goes, so be looking out for that!

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5. “stop planting your flowers in other people’s gardens if you know they aren’t going to water them”

This is a quote I got via Twitter and this is the story of my life, especially with guys. I can already foreshadow that this person wouldn’t be genuinely interested in me as more than a friend, yet regardless, you can’t help but fall emotionally until you get hurt. Metaphorically, you keep planting your flowers in their garden and watch them die due to negligence. This inspired me to stop “planting my flowers” with anyone and to find someone who has MiracleGrow to nurture them.

I hope you guys were inspired within this past month of the new year to become a better person and to self-improve!

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Book Review: #GIRLBOSS & Love, Rosie

I read these two books in the last few days before 2014 ended and I glad I’m chose them before the close of the year to spark my love of reading again to help keep up with my goal to read two books a month.

The first book was #GIRLBOSS written by Sophia Amoruso. I absolutely loved this book. I felt like I was in conversation with an older cousin telling me her experiences. It was so down to Earth and easy to read. I learned so much in this book. I screen shot so many pages that had a line or a paragraph I wanted to reference later. The only thing I regret is not buying a hard copy (only got the ebook). It’s so motivating and inspiring, she straight up tells you that you have to work for what you want, being a genuinely nice person will get you far in life and SO much more advice. I highly recommend this book to girls who are trying to make it in the business world or just trying to reach for the stars in general. I definitely plan on reading this book 5 more times (at least). Sophia is so inspirational. I may have followed her on all social media accounts…

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The second book is Love, Rose by Cecelia Ahern. Let me just say that I loved this book despite how sadistic it is. I cried at the end and couldn’t believe that was how it ended. I was so depressed by the ending.

This book is uniquely written through a mass of letters, emails, instant messages, etc and I did like that because it really got to the point at times. Except, it was as if you were just being told about what happened, but you weren’t actually there like in regular books. For example: It doesn’t show the actual parts when Alex & Rosie are together. You would find out what happened through a letter Rosie writes to her sister telling her about what happened. I felt like I was missing a couple things because of this writing style. I don’t want to give too much away, but I’m glad I read this book! I haven’t been so hooked on a book like this for awhile but I will warn you, finishing the book was torture.

Some of you may know that this book is going to the big screen but from the looks of the trailer and the cast, I don’t think they are going to fully portray the whole book and I’m very sad about that. I think they took out a couple of characters who are crucial to events that were crucial to the story of Alex & Rosie’s love life. I hope the movie is still good and but I’m still excited to watch it based on being a Lilly Collins fan alone, which is what encouraged me to read the book!

I HIGHLY suggest both these books! Find a copy and read them! I hope you guys enjoyed this review and are looking forward to next month’s!

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Liebster Award

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This is kind of late since I’ve been nominated for the Liebster Award, but I was nominated twice by A Little Pep In Your Step & Lace & Pearls Blog!

Questions From A Little Pep In Your Step:

1. What made you decide to start your blog?

-I started this blog as a way to work on my writing and creativity but it turned out to be much more! I learned that I wanted to genuinely inspire people (girls in my age area in particular) and I hope I can accomplish this through my blog.

2. What are your goals for 2015: in life and for your blog?

-I recently did a Aspirations post, so you could check that out!

3. What was your biggest life lesson in 2014?

-This is really important to me because I learned how much I love my sister and how to gain an actual friendship with her, which we’ve never really had❤

4. What was your most exciting memory from 2014?

-My most exciting memory was probably Road Back to EIF. The energy was amazing and I got to go with my best friends and that night was really one I’ll never forget.

5. What was the last book, magazine or blogpost that you read?

I have a GetPrismatic account, (which I suggest everyone have) and the last article I read from there was 50 Unpredictable and Non-Cliched Places To Travel To In Your 20s

6. How would your friends describe you?

I would HOPE my friends would describe me as creative, funny, and reliable.

7. Was it difficult to share your blog with people you know? Why or why not?

It was a little. I shared it with my best friend at first for feedback. I wanted to know what someone who actually knows me thinks about my blog. I was scared that the person I was on my blog was different to how I’m perceived in real-life.

8. What was your favorite post to write in 2014?

That would have to be How To: Love Reading Again

9. Which blog post got the most traffic in 2014?

That would be How To: Get Your Self-Esteem to Normal Level, which was my first post if I’m not mistaken!

10. Who/What inspires you?

EVERYTHING! I think inspiration is everywhere, you just have to look!

11. List five random facts about yourself.

-I feel like I’ve found my best friend for life

-Both my parents are twins

-I get told I’m going to have twins multiple times by multiple people

-My favorite color is purple

-I’m currently watching Friends on Netflix

-I’ve been friend-zoned by two of my best friends

Questions From Lace & Pearls Blog:

11 Facts About Myself:

1. I love adrenaline rushes

2. I’ve never had a hangover before (no matter how much I drink)

3. I stray away from things that go mainstream

4. I laugh super loud

5. My favorite food is fresh lumpia (spring rolls)

6. I can understand most of my native language which is called Chamorro, but sadly I can’t speak it

7. I love to learn but I really dont think I need a degree for what I aspire to do

8. I can’t drop out because I’m on a scholarship

9. My favorite movies are the Ocean’s Eleven Trilogy

10. I like to make little videos

11. My entire room can never be immaculate at the same time

1. How long have you been blogging?

It’s been approximately two months since I’ve started Somebody’s Baby

2. Do you work outside of blogging?

Yes. My mom is sole proprietor of a small local candy & cookie shop. I’m a Kitchen Assistant/Social Media Manager/ Creative Assistant/Delivery Driver/Secretary. Plus I’m a student at the University of Guam.

3. Who does your photography?

Right now, myself, via iPhone.

4. What’s your dream job?

Picking up my mom’s business and expanding it because I know it has so much potential here on the island.

5. Favorite drink?

I’m an avid water drinker, but I love Arizona Green Tea.

6. One of your fears?

Regretting missing a good opportunity.

7. One thing from your bucket list?

Seeing Taylor Swift in concert (which I hope to do this year!)

8. Favorite Local Restaurant?

It’s a really small overlooked Vietnamese restaurant called Kihn Do, but I’m never disappointed by what I get there, especially when I don’t get any of the usual dishes I order.

9. Worst Habit?

I actually don’t want to say my worst habit, which tells you it’s something I REALLY need to stop doing but my next worst habit would probably be procrastination…

Thank you so much girls for nominating me for this award! I genuinely appreciate it and I’m sorry for taking forever to complete it!

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How To: Do Things You Enjoy By Yourself

A few months ago I told my friends they should really watch Gone Girl. They asked who I watched it with. When I told them I went by myself they freaked out and questioned why I went alone. So I watched a movie alone? Big deal? NOT.

Here’s How To: Be Alone

  1. Be Confident
  • Being confident is one of the top things you will ever need to learn how to do in life to conquer the world. What I love about doing things by myself is that it gives me even more confidence afterwards!
  1. Learn Not to Care What Other People Think
  • This is an awesome state of mind because it gives you so much peace of mind. Who cares if you’re eating alone? Who cares if you don’t have someone to go shopping with? You won’t look like a loser! And if someone thinks you are, WHO CARES? Remember that what someone else thinks of you is none of your business.
  1. Act Normal
  • Being alone isn’t a big deal, don’t make it like it is. Just be yourself.
  1. Be Spontaneous & Explore
  • Because you’re by yourself, your options are limitless. There’s no one around convincing you not to do something. You can do what you want to do. I love going to random places and just walking around and wandering. Being by yourself is such a great way to appreciate what’s around you.

Do things you enjoy by yourself. It’s great for the soul and can give you a mini break for social pressures. It’s something I’m thankful I learned how to do and genuinely enjoy when I need a break. Take care and be mindful of yourself.

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